Well, hello everyone! How have you been? I’m doing probably doing the best yet in life!
So, awhile back a woman asked about how to get out of an abusive relationship? Here is my story out of one of my situations that I now know how I want to live my life and how I got my power back!
Let’s go back about seven months ago, I was living with a very emotional and physically abusive man. I couldn’t leave a room without being asked where I was going or what took you so long in bathroom? He wanted me by his side always but acted as if he were a nice guy when he had to.
I had to do what he said. He would wake me up in middle night and scream at me, I even stayed when he came home drunk one night, woke me up started a fight with me and then he strangled me with a belt. It was horrifying knowing he had my life in his hands.
Why I stayed I couldn’t really tell you. I just did. I was his slave. Finally, one day I had fucking enough! Packed all my shit and called everyone I knew and found a place to crash for a bit, and ended up homeless. I had nowhere to go but I wasn’t going back to that so I started calling every Domestic Abuse Hotline I could find until finally one in Vermont had a bed for me.
I have no kids. I had nothing in Massachusetts but family so I said. “Fuck it; why not.” I lived in this beautiful shelter for six months with an amazing woman who runs the center. They let me see who I really was and could accomplish whatever I needed to do to better my life!
I busted my ass off I filled out applications for months, had to change all my doctors, insurance, get all my state assistance, meet people, go here go there, see this person for this, then bring this to them…but I was starting my own life! My own Life!
Now I’m living in my own apartment — for the first time ever on my own! I have my Chloe back and for you who don’t know who Chloe is she is my dog that I’ve had for 12 years. My baby girl! I’m starting the process of going back to college. I have new amazing friends! I live in the perfect little country apartment in a cute country town ‘cause you all know I’m a country gal!
Most of all I know now what I will allow in my life and what I will not every again! I deserve a good life; we all do! I got my power and voice back! I am a powerful woman, all the shit we go through only makes us stronger yet more beautiful!
So, ladies if you are in a relationship that you don’t want to be in there are many ways out. Call your local or national domestic abuse lines in your areas. Call a friend, the police, say something at your doctor’s office –anything you can. You can be free from that life and most all you are worthy of it. We all are!
